Friday, September 29, 2006

What is dating?

Ok, so where I live we are all having a little trouble deciding on the whole dating thing. This girl that I knows thinks that when you date it gets you into the habit of breaking up with other ppl, and when you are in a marriage situation that habit will kick in, and you will want to break up and get a divorce with someone. I like this girl a lot she is one of my friends, but I personally don't agree with her. Anyway I just wanted to get anybody's opinion who stops by this blog. What do you think dating is? This is a really important question. As for the book, I am working on getting a copy to see what it is all about. Its by Joshua Harris, who gummibear28 and room4spirit pointed out. He started the Rebelution which I have a link to on the blog.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...

i think that some people can let it get bad enough. i definitely see that girl's point, but in most respects i really think she's wrong. i think that its always going be up to the person to be able to gauge exactly what he does or does not let himself do. i don't really thing that the person who you start off dating, or even a ways down the line is going be your spouse, but i dont think that it's a waste either. it's not just finding wut u do and don't like, it's becoming more familiar with one another and the other gender. and ultimately, it doesn't matter what anyone says b/c in the end, that person makes a decision as to whether or not they will date and really no one can stop them.

coley boley said...

i'm still kinda cunfused myself on this topic b/c i think that "teen" dating is ok as long as you don't get all serious and emotional but isn't that what it's supposed to be??? i mean, this is serious and you also shouldn't go around dating as many girls as you can in your four years of high school.....not that i'm thinking of anyone in particular

coley boley said...

btw, i missed blogging so mine's back up and running. same bat cave. same bat channel.

www.visnesaltare.blogspot.com

Idblur said...

Now I have to redo the link all over again....

lol glad to have you back coley

room4spirit said...

so yeah the whole dating thing, that's a big one this year b/c of our school getting so much bigger. the joshua harris book is goo but it's way way extreme. carrie and i found a good book called dateable, which currently our theology teacher is reading, and it's a bit more relaxed and i think that if you combine the two books then you should have a pretty good idea of what's out there and different ways to approach it. me personally, "teen" dating is fine just as long as you don't get carried away with it like most people tend to. just remember that it most likely won't work and don't get so so emotionally attached b/c then that just makes it all the worse when the break up comes, but other then that i think it's fine to date.

Idblur said...

yea def. ppl gotta stop bein so serious, save that for when your old like 26

nhik6826 said...

dating....ahh a very hot topic these days. Well in my opinion dating is two people getting together and having fun so as to get to one know each other and two know what kind of person you can get along with and three what kind of person you are. First of all b4 one even gets into dating I think there are some key points. First of all any one under age 16 shouldnt even be dating. They are not emotionally stable enough to handle things involved with dating. Such as taking into account the good of the other person, and discerning for their own good. Not even all 16 year olds can do this. Even if one is dating at 16 i dont think it should be exclusive. For one thing it is a great distraction from school. For another it creates emotional bonds that are very hard to break and that most teens of that age cannot deal with when broken. I mean think about it. Its like you and your first pet. If your parents ever got rid of your first pet or it died im sure you didnt just say Oh well it died who cares. you were very attached. Well the same thing goes with dating. You are with this person a lot. If for some reason this other person doesnt want to be with you anymore you go into a state of emotional instability which effects everything. A lot of this problem whether yall like it or not has to be decided upon by the parents based upon each kids maturity level.